Having children looked after by a family member is a popular option. But if you do want to use a relative for childcare, consider your relationship with them carefully beforehand. Think about how closely your ideas on upbringing coincide and whether you are able to talk through problems honestly and openly. If so, then this can be a very convenient arrangement.

•   The child and carer are already well known to one another
•   Family members (particularly grandparents) generally love the children in a way that professional carers cannot
•   It's often a very flexible system; late nights at the office, or indeed an unexpected day’s leave are less likely to need negotiating than if you were using a nursery, where arrangements need to be pre-booked
•   A family member is also more likely to care for your child if he is poorly
•   The cost may be much lower. For some families the cost of alternative childcare almost cancels out the financial benefits of working. Using your mother or sister may be the only way you can afford to work

•   You may find it hard to agree about how you want your baby brought up, especially if you have strong views on key issues such as discipline or sweets
•   The carer can easily begin to feel that they are taken for granted
•   If you do disagree about childcare it could spill over into a general family row
•   It can be quite hard to change to another form of childcare without it being seen as a criticism of your relative
•   You may be uncomfortable talking about money. How much, if anything, should you pay a relative? Should you be paying for your child's meals and transport? Even if you are not actually paying for the car there may be other costs involved such as an extra car seat or highchair. It's worth thinking about who will pay for these before you begin

Where to next?

• Choosing childcare - your options.
• How to spot a great nursery.
• How to choose a great childminder.
• Keeping it in the family - our article explores the issue of family looking after baby, further