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Mum to mum - what babyworlders said…
'I really feel for you. My second son can be just like this but he
has just turned 7. He has been like this for as long as I can remember
and I have to say that we just leave him and walk away. He did have a
fright when a man tried to take him to the customer services.'
'My son is fine as long as things go his way and I have to say that it
isn't always the case and then we have the screaming and crying. I have
tried the star charts and have to say that they have worked as long as
they are not done on a long-term basis. I also used to sit him down in
the middle of wherever we were and talk to him about why we didn't do
these things. I have to say it did work sometimes - a lady once passed
me and said I was doing a great job and to keep it up.'
'I know it can be very difficult to find time but perhaps if you could
spend half an hour just with your son and no distractions then maybe that
would work.'
'I can kind of understand what you're going through. I have a two-year-old
daughter, as well as a seven-month-old son, and more often than not, I
am in tears too. The problem, like yours, is with my toddler. She is at
the stage where she is running off and throwing herself onto shop floors
in a tantrum!'
'To stop your DS running off in the shop, try getting some reins and
attach them to the buggy, this way you don't have to chase him. He will
probably still throw himself onto the floor and in this case I'm afraid
I can't offer much advice except to divert his attention with something.
You could take a favourite toy of his with you to the shops and don't
let him know you have it, so that when he throws the tantrum he will be
surprised to see it and forget all about the paddy he was in.'
'I know its not a good long-term solution, and they have to learn right
from wrong, but at this age it is virtually impossible to get anywhere
with such a young child. When he's that little bit older, he will learn
to know the meaning of a good telling off! Just like my daughter will.'
'I was going to suggest the reins too - it's a bit of a high-risk
strategy, but if you explain that until he's prepared to be a big boy
and not do babyish things then he'll have to wear the baby reins. Or get
a sling carrier for your new baby and make him sit in the buggy instead,
then he might suddenly decide to behave a bit better when you're out at
the shops. If this doesn't work then my brother and sister-in-law's technique
of "pay no attention" has worked with their son, who's now just started
school. But you really have to just leave them and I understand that this
is not going to be easy if you're the only one there.'
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