Babyworld - children valuesYour shoutWe asked babyworld members for their opinion on these values - which ones they hold dearest, and how they try to enforce them! "Luckily my daughter (6) shows all of these, no doubt it will change when she becomes a teenager. She is also very lazy though, so I would like to teach her to do things for herself it bit more. My son is only 16 months so is yet to show any of these!" Olivia "Personally, I think these are qualities some people have in bucketfuls and others don't have an ounce of. I try to be empathic, generous, honest, responsible and respectful - sometimes I fail! I hope I'm teaching by example. I encourage my children to share from an early age, to understand about other people's feelings. Having a few siblings helps with that I think. My daughter is quite responsible and respectful, it's in her nature, whereas my boys are totally dishonest and think if they tell me black is white often enough I'll believe them! I think only time will tell whether you're doing the right thing or not, but if you aim to have these values yourself then at least you're setting the right example." Sandra "Alice (7) knows how to behave perfectly when we are out and shows all of those values: she has her moments at home though! Isobel (4) shows most of them but she has a real problem with showing respect and that worries me. Yesterday at playgroup she called one of the ladies a big fat person. I was horrified and explained to her why she shouldn't do it, as I have several times before in other embarrassing situations, and unfortunately I know she will do it again - so obviously I don't know how to teach her respect. Good manners are very important to me. I think mainly they see how you behave and learn from your example and you just give them a nudge when they are getting it wrong." Wendy "It seems to me the only way to actually teach your child values is to live them by example. You can talk to them until you are blue in the face about tolerance, respect, understanding, empathy, etc, but if what they see when they are with you is that you are not being all of those things, then it won't make a difference. For example, if you try to tell them it's important to learn to be patient and wait their turn but whenever they are in the car with you or your partner they see you not letting the other car in the lane first, or muttering derisively at other drivers, or yelling at the light to change, or just generally being really impatient, then why should they believe you?" KellieH "I have a feeling this may be long!
There are loads of values to teach them and many different situations that arise in which a lesson can be learnt. I don't know what is the right or wrong way, but my kids seem to be doing OK and I get loads of compliments about them." Vix Page 2 of 2 << Back Where to next
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