The week begins with a visit to one of Maria’s old school friends, who has a six-month-old daughter to add to a five-year-old son and three-year-old daughter. Very much a handful!

We sit down and have tea, accompanied by three other friends from the circle, and the conversation inevitably revolves around babies.

As the only male present I feel a bit like a cricket umpire. Observing, issuing the occasional remark – very much involved, but somehow separate from all around me.

The experience of pregnancy is discussed in detail, both in terms of physical and emotional issues, and I feel isolated. It’s nothing to do with being ostracised, far from it, but I feel relieved when talk turns to other subjects.

Later on news comes of a baby son for a mutual friend of ours. It’s a poignant moment as this friend had been responsible for bringing us together all those years ago. It had been a difficult labour, another reminder for Maria of the possible perils ahead, but the joy the child brings is self-evident and uplifting for us.

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